A breakup happens for all sorts of reasons. We’re now some months away from Valentines in February and the flower/chocolates pushing has already stopped. The sun is out and people are ready to cut ties loose and have a summer fling.
So what do you do when it falls apart? Well each relationship should be handled differently so I decided to look at the key things NOT to do.
1.Call them at midnight crying about how much you want them back.
They won’t appreciate it, especially if you wake them up.
Cry into your pillow.
Tell your teddy.
Cry at your friends.
But don’t call them!
2. Tell all their friends what a horrible person he/she is
Hey it’s probably true. I’m sure they are a complete douche. And you’re right. It IS all their fault everything went wrong. But trying to bad mouth them to anyone who will listen isn’t going to make you look good. Same goes for all over putting it all over your social media accounts.
In fact the phrase “sore loser” comes to mind.
3. Dwell on everything that was utterly perfect.. and everything that went completely wrong
It’s really tempting to live in the past but it’s a very dangerous thing to do. You can’t fix the past and unless you have a crazy neighbour with a delorean you’re probably not going to be able to do anything about it.
Work on what you can do in the present and try and find the lessons you can carry forward. Better times await you.. you can’t enjoy them with your head in the clouds.
4. Hook up with the next available person (and tell everyone they’re the love of your life)
Oh so you’ve just broken up with your ex? But it’s ok because your newer model is much better looking, totally gets you and you can’t wait to get married and have lots of kids.
Yeah, you’re not fooling anyone. By all means put it about and enjoy your freedom, it’s quite normal to want to explore previously unexplored territory but recognise it for what it is. This will save a lot of potential heartache for everyone involved.
5. Seek over the top revenge
Sure. Burning their stuff, sleeping with their sister, cutting their hair off in the corridor and mailing it back to them may all sound like really great ideas right now.
Protip? They’re probably not. Sure they might deserve all the pain they get but demeaning yourself in the process just goes to prove that you’re not at all over them and are completely desperate and malicious. Not really a good look is it?
6. Think you can go back to square one straight away
Sure, some people come out of relationships and end up really good friends and some people even get back together down the line. But right now you do need that space and time to hurt and grieve and heal. Standing on your own two feet is the number one thing you need to right now.
Sod anyone else, they don’t matter!
So that’s all my advice but what about you guys? Any nightmare breakup stories? What would you advise? Let us know in the comments below or get involved on Facebook!
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